Guest Blog: Written by Peacemaker Antoinette Sampson for Team Massive Impact.
The Venus square Saturn clash forming up in the skies now can add stress to intimate and professional relationships. When Venus and Saturn are at odds, as they are now, they can highlight negative feelings and/or other issues brewing between you and someone else.
Usually though, any upsets coming up under a Venus/Saturn clash stem from our own fears and the criticisms we level at ourselves.
During this time, its important to be conscious of what is going on, and to observe how things unfold. This is a basic of ‘living consciously’. If we observe ourselves and our lives, we see how we are contributing to the play of our life. We begin to investigate new ways to understand ourselves, self-empowerment and self-love.
I know we can talk about “Self Love”, until we are blue in the face. But what does that really mean?
It takes time to understand that every relationship that contains conflict or that ends, teaches us something about ourselves. It helps us to evolve out of that and into the next chapter hopefully with a little more insight and wisdom.
It’s a very hard thing to hear at the time, when tissues and romantic stories of lost love are the only solace in a black cloud of sadness misery unworthiness and self criticism and when the roller coaster of our emotions plunges us into the abyss.
However it’s the truth. Relationships are the playpen where we learn to do it better. To see how our own lens colors our world. To find out about our selves, and to reflect on our own part in the play, that is our relationship.
Many of us subjugate our own “self Love”, and put all of our energy and time into our relationships, and forget about nurturing ourselves. We subsequently lose touch with our own needs and truth and begin to play a part in the story, in order to keep it going rather than be authentic, which would rock the boat.
We are often looking for validation from outside of ourselves. From our partners, so that when they say how wonderful we are, or how clever we are, or how beautiful we are, then and only then can we love ourselves. And only then can we believe that we are worthy of love.
And then when they don’t, we feel unloved and unworthy.
There are a myriad of issues in our relationships that stem from a lack of “self love”. I don’t know about you, but I spent years learning how to hold onto my own identity and beliefs. It has been easy in the past to let that go. And at the end feel empty and alone.
Learning to be happy inside my own heart, and to nurture and love my essence has been the grand journey back to “Self Love”.
Join us in Sydney, Australia, at Massive Impact: The Heart of Self Love on September 24th at the Eternity Playhouse, Darlinghurst Theatre, where we will be exploring “The Heart of Self Love”, and giving you practical tools and skills to begin the journey back to your heart. Click here for more info.
